Changing yourself or your circumstances takes courage. Plain and simple; it’s hard. And the bigger the change, typically the more courage and effort it takes. Trust me, I know. I’ve left a spouse, I’ve left careers, I’ve left companies I founded, I’ve left partners and I’ve even left my life (as I knew it). And I never left because things were bad. In fact, by most people’s standards, including my own, the things I left were good.
But I made a commitment to myself years ago that I was not willing to settle for ‘good enough.’ Life is too short and my passions are too deep to short-change either. And to me, ‘good enough’ is the biggest obstacle to ‘amazing.’ Aren’t we all worth having an amazing life? An amazing career? An amazing relationship? Why settle for less?
I know…I know…it’s so hard to make the really tough decisions that force you out of your comfort zone. I’ve gone through the torment, the tears, the working to make things better but still falling short. I’ve made heart-wrenching decisions that at times left me a sobbing mess. And despite all the pain, suffering, worry and doubt; I’ve never regretted one of my tough decisions. While they were hard to make and even harder to follow through with, they were necessary to ultimately get me on a better and more authentic path for myself.
Are you willing to live your ideal life? Are you willing to be bold and courageous? You will need ample reserves of both if you truly want to create an amazing life and leave ‘good enough’ behind.
So here are four questions you need to ask yourself:
1. Are you living the life that you truly want? (Think about all aspects of your life – your career, your financial security, your relationships, your spiritual development, your contribution, etc.)
2. What do you want to change? (In other words, in an ideal world, what would be different? Be specific and include everything you want to change.)
3. Why haven’t you made the changes? (Dig down and be honest with yourself; what are you afraid of? Why are you putting off the changes you want?)
4. What can you do NOW to start moving in the direction of your ideal life? (If you have more than one area that you want to change; pick one to start with. Don’t get overwhelmed to the point of doing nothing. Failure to act is failure to honor yourself and your potential.)
I really do know how hard this process can be when you recognize that tough choices need to be made. So if you are struggling and you need to talk through anything, contact me at Will@RefuseOrdinary.com. I want you to be your truly ‘amazing’ self!
